new year new blog

i have decided to create a new blog..one that i will use pretty much exclusively for photos of my wonderful little family. none of my opinions on happenings, world events, or relationships.

i've already made my first post, so enjoy

www.thebowilliamsfamily.blogspot.com

i also wanted to share the meaning behind my blog address "look after u" i wanted "look after you" but it was taken. it is a song by the fray that was popular during the most awful time in my life. i didn't know who i was, and woke up most days wishing i was dead. i couldn't undestand why God allowed me to live 26+ years and just wished something had happened to me before that time so that i wouldn't have had to experience the worst pain i have ever experienced. then a sweet man made things start to look better. and i realized i didn't want to be dead anymore...

whenever i hear this song, it reminds me of the hope i started to feel. that someone could love me, cherish me, and take care of me. i still consider it our song..
here are the lyrics...

"Look After You"

If I don't say this now I will surely break
As I'm leaving the one I want to take
Forgive the urgency but hurry up and wait
My heart has started to separate

Oh, oh, oh
Be my baby
Oh, oh, oh
Oh, oh, oh
I'll look after you

There now, steady love, so few come and don't go
Will you won't you, be the one I always know
When I'm losing my control, the city spins around
You're the only one who knows, you slow it down

Oh, oh, oh
Be my baby
Oh, oh, oh
Oh, oh, oh
I'll look after you

If ever there was a doubt
My love she leans into me
This most assuredly counts
She says most assuredly

Oh, oh, oh
Oh, oh, oh
Be my baby
I'll look after you

It's always have and never hold
You've begun to feel like home
What's mine is yours to leave or take
What's mine is yours to make your own

Oh, oh, oh
Oh, oh, oh
Be my baby
Oh, oh, oh

the biggest loser

about 2 months ago, my wonderful husband suggested that we go on a diet - he said that HE was the one who needed to lose weight, but i felt he really only wanted "us" to do it so I would do it. i happily agreed though, b/c i really wanted to lose weight. i knew immediately that i wanted to do weight watchers.

so i joined weight watchers online to figure out how many points we would each get. we officially started our diet november 10th...right before thanksgiving and christmas...
some said we were crazy to start before the holidays b/c everyone gains weight over the holidays. but i disagree. if you want to start a diet, you should start NOW. not monday, not new years, but NOW.

in the past 2 months i have lost over 14 pounds and bo has lost 18. it has actually been fun! it was hard at first, but after the first 3 weeks it just became a part of our life. we are even able to indulge in our favorite bad food, pizza, every 2 or 3 weeks. we just save our points.

both of us feel that being in control of our weight makes us feel empowered. the food does not control us - WE are in control! it's such a wonderful feeling - we plan to stay on weight watchers indefinitely, but will increase our points when we are done losing weight, to maintain our weight.

this may seem totally off-topic, but, bear with me, it's not. i have been a HUGE fan of dave ramsey for over 5 years. one of the things dave says is basically, if you don't have a plan, you will easily stumble into debt. you will never just stumble into wealth. and it's totally the same thing with your weight. if you just eat whatever, whenever and however much you feel like, you're probably going to gain weight. you have to have a plan. you have to think about what you put into your mouth (as you have to think about what you spend your money on). now it's like i'm taking my passion for staying out of debt and saving and using that to also lose weight! it's awesome and so worth it!! i don't know if i've ever felt better about myself. it's so nice to succeed at something you really want to do. and i honestly could not have done it without my best friend and biggest cheerleader, my husband!

while i have reached my initial goal of weighing what my drivers license says i weigh, i am not done losing weight. my current weight is at the absolute top of what it considered in the "normal" range for my height (according to my bmi). i hope to lose at least 10 more pounds...maybe THEN i'll post my "before" and "after" pictures.

the MOST wonderful time of the year!

if you know me, you probably know that i've never been a huge fan of Christmas. i'm sure when i was little i got excited about santa and everything. but after that, i never really enjoyed it.
but this year has been totally different. well, last year was good too - i was on a cruise!

bo really likes Christmas, and it's rubbed off on me. we've done every possible "christmasy" tradition with morgan that we can think of. we braved 30 degree weather to watch the christmas parade. we rode around looking at christmas lights - while morgan kept telling us to "be quiet" and "don't talk" for some reason. she is very demanding! morgan got an "elf on the shelf" that she named curtis from her mae mae. that was a really fun tradition that we plan to continue for years to come.
and i guess it helps to have a preschooler. she was very excited about santa and gifts and everything - it's the first year she's really understood about santa. unfortunately, morgan was at her dad's on christmas eve, so christmas morning was somewhat anti-climatic. but it was nice to for bo and i to open our gifts and get everything cleaned up and ready before morgan got home. we even got showered and dressed so that we looked halfway decent for the christmas video.

anyway, for christmas this year morgan got: a swingset (which bo and his dad, granddad, uncle and cousin put together for 6+ hours in the freezing cold), 2 baby dolls, a baby stroller, swing and high chair, a portable dvd player, clothes, coloring books, markers, dvds, an aquadoodle mat, some books, a necklace and bracelet, press-on earrings and lots of dora stuff.

bo and i pretty much bought each other the stuff we told the other to get. i did suprise bo with a bunn coffeemaker. he had no idea he was getting it, so that was fun. bo got me several gift cards, some cooking supplies and a weight watchers cook book.

we also got a TON of stuff from bo's parents. his mom goes all out for christmas. i got several pieces of my gail pittman pattern (which is going out of business :-( so sad), some gift cards, some pottery from peter's and mccartys, and some money$$$$ - bo's favorite gift!

my wonderful husband really made this the best christmas ever - he works really hard at everything he does and he supports me at everything i want to do - including our "biggest loser williams family edition" which will be covered in a later blog.

i hope that everyone who may read this had a wonderful christmas and that 2009 brings many blessings to your lives!

bon qui qui at king burger

everyone should watch this video...sooo funny!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZkdcYlOn5M

some pics of my cutie!

her indian name was "bright eyes"

i like this pic b/c it shows her pretty blue eyes :-)

morgan and all of her babies

morgan and her cousins (my brother's kids) christian and nathan

why do people get married?

i was looking at the wedding/engagement announcements on the clarionledger.com and it made me wonder - why? i would imagine most would say it's because they're in love and want to start a family.

but i was talking to a lady i work with yesterday - she is 40 something, divorced after almost 20 years of marriage and repeated infidelity on her ex-husband's part. they have been divorced for 5 years or so and she still hates him. i guess what i was thinking about is when you marry someone, you make yourself totally vulnerable to them. you open yourself up in such a way that your spouse can totally destroy you with a single sentence. the phrase "thin line between love and hate" really is true. because ultimately, you can't hate someone unless you have cared enough to really let them get to you. so why do people want to put themselves in that position? b/c no one thinks it will happen to them.

i have grown and changed ALOT in the last almost 2 years. i've thought about that a lot lately. i used to think that things were "meant to be" and let life happen to me. i thought, "well, if he wants to marry me, then it must be meant to be" (i am referring to my ex, not my current husband) and i don't know where i got that attitude but it is completely stupid to me now. whenever i find myself talking to someone new, oftentimes they ask "how did yall meet?" about me and bo. when they hear our rather unusual story, the usual reaction is "well, it must be meant to be!" except for one girl who said "that is sick!" - i still don't understand that one!
i just smile and say "yeah" or something, but i really don't agree with that at all.

and i will answer my own question (which was really meant to be rhetorical) - why did i marry bo? well, he introduced me to the church of Christ which i believe is the one, true church, without which i might never have been saved. (yes, that's what i believe - i know it sounds "cultish" but it absolutely isn't! i respect everyone's right to choose their own church but if you're curious about what we believe feel free to ask - i won't try to persuade you to change) second, he loves my daughter - it takes a lot for a man to be willing to love, provide for and raise a child that doesn't have his dna or his last name. you should see bo carrying around our camcorder at all of morgan's dance team performances - it's so cute! third, he has the same life dreams and goals that i have - to raise a family and to show our kids what marriage is supposed to look like and to spend eternity in heaven. fourth, he is very smart financially - is planning for our retirement and strives to keep us debt free. fifth, he expressed his desire to be, and is, the leader of our family. sixth, he not only respects, but embraces, my fear of flying (that was partially a joke, but it actually is true!) most importantly he loves and respects me. and he does little things daily to show me that.
i may very well be the luckiest girl in the whole world.

some pics

riding tricycle



fun at the ms state fair

nothing too exciting going on around the williams household...morgan was tinkerbell for halloween...will post pics as soon as i find my camera cord. morgan is still enjoying school - she loves her teacher and even has a boyfriend.

i am SOOOO ready for this election to be over! so tired of politics!! and just hoping and praying that john mccain wins!!