house update!

well, we have been working on the house for 2 months now. the carpet is gone (except for in the master - there isn't hardwood underneath, unfortunately) and every wall of the house has been painted, except for the kitchen - we're holding off for a little while before tackling that one!
bo and his dad are currently fixing the closets - they had this wire organizational thing which just didn't work for us. those are gone now and they have patched the walls and are repainting. bo is also painting the boards that will be shelves in the closets.
today, we are driving to jackson to go to miskelly's to hopefully buy a bedroom suit. we are both really excited, which is rare for bo to be excited about shopping - our master bedroom is huge ~ 20 x 15 i believe, which is nice, but is also a challenge to find the right furniture. so hopefully, we'll have a grown-up looking master bedroom soon, instead of the dorm room looking bedroom we have now.

just in case i haven't mentioned it, bo also changed out every electrical outlet and light switch in the house. they were all beige and some had been painted to match the wall colors. he wanted them all to match so we went with white. also he has bought, but not yet installed all new doorknobs for the outside doors, again, so they will all match. AND we're in the process of replacing all of the bathroom fixtures with oil rubbed bronze ones.

i am so proud of my hubby! he works so hard to make our house looks nice, and he understands that sometimes you have to spend a little bit of money in order to do so.

so anyway, just a little update. we are no where near done, but we're making progress!

i hurt for them

i have a friend (it's really not me!) who is going thru a situation similar to what i went through a year and a half ago. her husband wants a divorce. i belive he is having an affair, although he hasn't admitted it, and she says it doesn't matter either way, he wants out, and she's letting him out.
i just do not understand why anyone would cheat on their spouse. everyone hurts. the wayward spouse, the betrayed spouse, the children (there aren't any in this case), and the parents and siblings of the spouses. i would imagine that the other woman hurts too, although i find it tough to feel sorry for someone who goes into a relationship with someone who they know is married. i also don't feel too sorry for anyone who is married who starts a relationship outside of their marriage.

i only wish that there was something i could do to prevent anyone from having to suffer the pain that i, and so many others, have suffered. i do everything i can to ensure that my current marriage stays on track. whenever a friend discusses their marital issues with me i offer any advice that seems relavant.

the most important issue (in my opinion) is what God says about marriage and adultery. and the only place to find that is in His Word, the Bible. i will try to come back with scripture references at some point - but - i think we all know that "thou shalt not commit adultery" is one of the 10 commandments. but that's old testament law, which we (members of Christ's church) are not bound to. however, the new testament reaffirms this as a truth. adultery is a sin.
but what is the punishment for adultery? i used to think (and a lot of people probably agree) that adultery is a sin, it's bad, but God will forgive those who commit it, if they ask for forgiveness. this is true, but there is a catch.
somewhere in the new testament (i will find this scripture) it is said (i think by Jesus) that God hates divorce, but will allow it. If you choose to divorce your spouse, and then later remarry you are committing adultery. UNLESS, you are the innocent party, betrayed by a spouse who commits sexual immorality. the betrayed spouse is released from the marriage contract and free to remarry.

moral to the blog: DONT CHEAT!!! REMEMBER YOUR VOWS!!! communicate with your spouse, work thru problems before you feel that you marriage is so far gone that you are tempted to cheat -

anyway, this is, was and always will be a painful topic for me. so i write what i think about.
read at your own risk ;-)